What to Do When Someone Dies http://someonedies.com Fri, 20 Jan 2012 14:33:09 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 Documentation Required to Process a Death http://someonedies.com/index.php/documentation-the-death-2/documentation/ http://someonedies.com/index.php/documentation-the-death-2/documentation/#comments Tue, 30 Dec 2008 18:05:32 +0000 Linda http://someonedies.com/?p=3

When someone you love dies there are lots of decisions which have to be made and you will have lots of questions. Here we aim to answer those questions and provide a forum for your to ask additional questions and get responses from other people in the same situation.

The first thing to keep in your mind is that you don’t have to do everything by yourself, ask a close friend or relative to help you.

Here are some of the most frequently asked questions in relation to documentation need to process a death:

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he is being cremated aswell.
should i go?
im 13 and have never been to a funeral before x

]]> http://someonedies.com/index.php/questions/funeral-help-x/feed/ 29 Bereavement; need advice on how to cope.? http://someonedies.com/index.php/questions/bereavement-need-advice-on-how-to-cope/ http://someonedies.com/index.php/questions/bereavement-need-advice-on-how-to-cope/#comments Fri, 20 Jan 2012 14:30:46 +0000 Linda http://someonedies.com/index.php/questions/bereavement-need-advice-on-how-to-cope/ I’ve enjoyed asking and answering a lot of light hearted ‘just good fun’ questions on here over the last few months; I’ve also asked and answered some more serious ones. Here’s the most heart felt, sincere, most difficult one I’ve posted so far.
I’m loosing my best friend and my coping mechanisms haven’t kicked in. My friends poor, distraught dad told me on Saturday that she’s only got a couple of days left to live, her battle with her Cancer is coming to an end. She’s sedated and calm in hospital and understandably isn’t allowed visitors, apart form her family of course; I’m expecting the call anytime now to say she’s gone. Her family have asked me to say some words for her at her funeral; it is going to be an honor to do this for her and for her family. I want to support her lovely family and need some strength myself to be able to do this in the way I’d like. I miss her already, it doesn’t seem real. Wondered if any invisable ‘ciber pen pals’ out there might beable to help.
You have no idea how much you’ve all helped; so many thanks. To Zapgaia; I’m going to use your verse as part of my words for my friend at her funeral, I’ll be strong for her family. Thank you.
My friends dad called me half an hour ago with the sad news that my beautiful friend passed away at lunch time today. All I want to say to everyone reading this; is never waste a moment with your friends, always tell them how much you love them, never leave anything unsaid. My friend and I knew how we felt about each other; that is a comfort.

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]]> http://someonedies.com/index.php/questions/funeral-question/feed/ 33 Bereavement, how do I tell my son?…? http://someonedies.com/index.php/questions/bereavement-how-do-i-tell-my-son/ http://someonedies.com/index.php/questions/bereavement-how-do-i-tell-my-son/#comments Thu, 29 Dec 2011 20:42:50 +0000 Linda http://someonedies.com/index.php/questions/bereavement-how-do-i-tell-my-son/ My son is 6 years old, and in his young mind, has already had a few “deaths”. Our dog died prematurely of a heart problem, our rabbits died, because next doors ferret got them (he doesn’t know that bit), our fish died after a 4 day power cut removed their filter and heat.

He seems to think everything dies, and his grandfather on my husband’s side died before he was born, but we have paintings and photos of him, so he knows he died and asks about it, to which I reply briefly, hoping not to scar him for live.

Today, suddenly, my father died, and despite being on warfarin, this was out of the blue, at his job. I am devastated.

My son loved him – how do I tell him? Please help me?

]]> http://someonedies.com/index.php/questions/bereavement-how-do-i-tell-my-son/feed/ 21 the reason we r apart is bcoz i came to my mums funeral and my family dont want us to go so in actual fact? http://someonedies.com/index.php/questions/the-reason-we-r-apart-is-bcoz-i-came-to-my-mums-funeral-and-my-family-dont-want-us-to-go-so-in-actual-fact/ http://someonedies.com/index.php/questions/the-reason-we-r-apart-is-bcoz-i-came-to-my-mums-funeral-and-my-family-dont-want-us-to-go-so-in-actual-fact/#comments Thu, 29 Dec 2011 05:44:54 +0000 Linda http://someonedies.com/index.php/questions/the-reason-we-r-apart-is-bcoz-i-came-to-my-mums-funeral-and-my-family-dont-want-us-to-go-so-in-actual-fact/ we neva seperated so me being in this relationship i think its just looking for company bcoz my heart is else way. So am i being selfish? Am i cheating on my current bfriend, i have not told him yet that i am in contact with the father of my child shud i tell him or just leave it? but at the same time i have needs too

]]> http://someonedies.com/index.php/questions/the-reason-we-r-apart-is-bcoz-i-came-to-my-mums-funeral-and-my-family-dont-want-us-to-go-so-in-actual-fact/feed/ 2 Should my friend go to the funeral? need some advice? http://someonedies.com/index.php/questions/should-my-friend-go-to-the-funeral-need-some-advice/ http://someonedies.com/index.php/questions/should-my-friend-go-to-the-funeral-need-some-advice/#comments Wed, 28 Dec 2011 07:46:38 +0000 Linda http://someonedies.com/index.php/questions/should-my-friend-go-to-the-funeral-need-some-advice/ my best friend had 2 kids with her ex husband, she has recently married, but the ex husbands younger brother has passed away, but her new husband does not want to attend as its the ex husbands family, she is not that close to the family and her and her ex husband parted on bad terms, should the new husband go to support his wife or does she even need to go

]]> http://someonedies.com/index.php/questions/should-my-friend-go-to-the-funeral-need-some-advice/feed/ 14 CRUISE BEREAVEMENT SERVICE say i am too upset for counselling. please help? http://someonedies.com/index.php/questions/cruise-bereavement-service-say-i-am-too-upset-for-counselling-please-help/ http://someonedies.com/index.php/questions/cruise-bereavement-service-say-i-am-too-upset-for-counselling-please-help/#comments Tue, 27 Dec 2011 19:43:58 +0000 Linda http://someonedies.com/index.php/questions/cruise-bereavement-service-say-i-am-too-upset-for-counselling-please-help/ I lost my daughter a while ago to cancer and i just cant cope! I feel every day is such a struggle to do anything. I dont go out anymore, i dont answer my door or phone and my heart just aches for my daughter. I cant cope with the fact that she has died and when my gp referred me to cruise they came round to assess me and said i was too upset for counselling and when i get myself sorted give them a ring and they will come back and reassess. I hurt every day for her, i cry all the time, i dont know what to do with myself. i just want my daughter and no one else. why did she have to leave me? my ex husband is being a right nasty evil git and the things he has done to me are unbelievable and unforgiveable too. please please can someone tell me what i can do? i am taking antidepressants and they dont seem to work. Every day i just wake up and want her back and nothing else matters. i have even started to think about taking my own life to see if that takes me to her, who can help?
i really dont know how i can be too upset for counselling when that is what they are there for. I have absolutely no confidence in ringing people or approaching them myself. in fact i am struggling to do this but i have a good friend sitting next to me pushing me. she has tried to get help but they say i have to ask for it. i just want my daughter back and i know in the real world i cant but i dont know what to do anymore.

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