Comments for What to Do When Someone Dies

Comment on FUNERAL HELP!! :( x? by Sharon O

Sharon O — Sat, 21 Jan 2012 04:11:34 +0000

what do your parents think? do they think you should go??? its always difficult when someone passes away.. and its hard on everyone.if you don’t feel you can take it then don’t go.. but if you want to pay your last respects and be with your family then go..

Comment on FUNERAL HELP!! :( x? by bob f

bob f — Sat, 21 Jan 2012 03:24:49 +0000

you do as you like if you go or not I’m sure he would have understood

Comment on FUNERAL HELP!! :( x? by Sudden5

Sudden5 — Sat, 21 Jan 2012 02:49:13 +0000

I personally dont go if its open casket as thats not how I would want to remember someone close to me. I was 10 when my best friends Dad went missing at sea and drowned and then my cousin drowned about 2mths after while swimming at the beach and I saw that happen. I choose not to go as I remember them in other ways. My Uncle passed and I didnt go to that but I feel no guilt. If its closed casket then thats different and solely up to you to decide. Either way its the memories that matter most.

Comment on FUNERAL HELP!! :( x? by Jodi B

Jodi B — Sat, 21 Jan 2012 01:56:24 +0000

Yes….to say goodbye out of love and respect for him..and so you will have a sense of closure..you will be ok, nothing to be scared of!

Comment on FUNERAL HELP!! :( x? by Micky M

Micky M — Sat, 21 Jan 2012 01:07:42 +0000

If you were close I think you will regret not going to say goodbye to him.

Comment on FUNERAL HELP!! :( x? by K.R.

K.R. — Sat, 21 Jan 2012 00:22:00 +0000

Hi there! I did my practice as an undertaker so i have seen plenty of funerals. And i think that you should go to your grandads funeral because it is, first of all, a good way to say goodbye in the company of your family. And believe me; to say goodbye isn’t scary just sad. Remember to bring a beautifully flower from you to him.

Comment on FUNERAL HELP!! :( x? by Kaye

Kaye — Sat, 21 Jan 2012 00:01:13 +0000

Sweetie, go to your Grandpa’s funeral.
Ask your parents what the plans for the funeral will be.
Some people who are going to be cremated are embalmed first, there is the usual “viewing” of the body in the coffin plus a normal funeral service. The only differance is that at the end of the service the coffin is taken away in a hearse to a Crematorium instead of a cemetery.

Sometimes the family simply gathers with the closed coffin at the Crematorium for a service before the coffin is taken away.

Sometimes the service takes place after the cremation, in which case there will be no coffin…your Grandpa’s ashes will be in an Urn instead.

If it is a funeral where you will see his coffin…you don’t have to go near it.
You can stay sitted when the rest of the family goes up to it to say their good-byes.
Explain what you want to do, and why, with your parents in advance… so there won’t be any confusion.
Tell them you might go up to the coffin but then again you might not.
I’m sure they will be OK with your wishes.
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Your grandpa probably won’t look as you remember him anyway, so just stay sitted, close your eyes, see him as you did the last time you were together and say your good-byes in your heart.
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It is the words and the people there that will be that will bring you comfort, make you realize how many family members loved him too and are still with you. You will always remember that day paying your respects along with your family.
My grandfather died nearly 40 years ago and I still remember his funeral.

Comment on FUNERAL HELP!! :( x? by victoria c

victoria c — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 23:11:34 +0000

Since you said he’s being cremated, it will only be a memorial service. Those can be pretty neat. People will stand up and say good things about him, sometimes people will remember funny things. The best service I ever went to was for a black co-worker. It was called a “home-going”. It actually made ME feel better. Go with an open mind and tell him how much you love him. He’ll hear you and probably guide you the rest of your life. Don’t be scared — again, there won’t be a ‘body’ there.

My condolences to you and your family…

Comment on FUNERAL HELP!! :( x? by dom c

dom c — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 22:51:39 +0000

there is nothing to be afraid of. if you were close then you might want to go so you can say your goodbyes and make peace with yourself. there is nothing to fear in death, it is only another part of life! and a cremation is not scary either. and i’m afraid in life you are going to have go to many funerals, and it wont hurt to start now.

Comment on FUNERAL HELP!! :( x? by mamaw2305

mamaw2305 — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 22:51:12 +0000

The family usually goes before anyone arrives so this will give you a chance to pay your respects.It is hard to see someone you love so much.They look like they are sleeping.It will be better to have your family close to you and they will give you the strength you will need.Sorry for your loss